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I knew that wasn’t the whole story so I became curious about all aspects of sex. I moved to New York City from Miami at 17 with $7. I did the banking thing and spent 15 uninspired years investigating financial crime. After an embarrassing encounter with an organizing professional, I founded House of Plume, an intimate lifestyle brand that creates storage products for sex toys. I longed for community in a socially ostracizing industry so I co-founded the Women of Sex Tech. I got tired of being tired. Though I was in a business that’s all about bringing pleasure to others, I wasn’t creating it for myself. I was slugging through the day and mad about it. One day, I wrote in my journal ‘I am tired of life being tired.’ I focused on what I did have, instead of what I didn’t. I took long baths, slowly inhaled the jasmine scent of my candles, or popped bubble wrap. For awhile, it took concerted effort because I felt I didn’t deserve it. After consistent action, I made pleasure a habit. 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